Who AM I?


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Who I am in my identity has always been subject to how people relate with what they see. From gender roles to social norms its a true reflection of who we are as a community.

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It is important to understand what our modern society describes as proper gender roles. However we must identify the impact these roles play in our social norms before we can conclude what effects they play in our future generation. We must also analyze how these roles affect our moral compass in areas such as political, religious, and educative culture. These factors will determine how important gender roles play in every part of our society.

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Growing up I mimicked my mother habits in what I believe a female should be. Yet as I grew older I found that her norms within her gender crossed many boundaries within male and female roles. My mother as termed in the chapter a “breadwinner”, was a single parent and she cooked and cleaned and had several jobs and maintained so many other roles within the home. When I started a relationship it was hard for me to understand what my roles were as a female and what were the male roles. I chose to take a neutral stance in how I would relate with the opposite sex. Instead of focusing on gender roles govern by our social norms. I chose to take a biblical approach. An example of that would be how I understood how my husband should relate with me in our family. The scripture reads. “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies Ephesians 5: 25-28.” In this scripture verse we realize that gender roles are not the objective but the character that these genders show is what I came to practice and the things I should look for in a mate. The chapter expresses that our gender roles have changed in the last decade and will continue to change. The most important aspect is within the actualization of human success as pointed in Maslow theory. We must understand our identity in all gender roles prior to creating these roles in all areas of our society. By aligning ourselves with our identity through the word of God and through the convictions of the Holy Spirit we will truly be able to self-actualize all the things Christ desired for us to accomplish in our lives.


When we look to biblical gender roles we even see this expression of gender roles being laid upon the action of Jesus on earth. As stated by scholarly findings, “ Jesus’s violation of the Sabbath engenders a debate about basic aspects of his identity—his authority, legitimacy, and how he might be known. Through this sign and the discourse it provokes, the Evangelist takes an opportunity to lay bare the sweeping significance of Jesus as one whose identity is bound up with the identity of the God who named and blessed the Sabbath and as it is also the identity of a son with a commission to work as his father works.3 This is why John can leave the festival unnamed without the portrayal of Jesus losing any power: It is the violation of the Sabbath (a festal Sabbath, to be sure) that provides the key setting for the claim that the Fourth Gospel makes in this chapter about Jesus as one who lives in a relationship of closest unity with the God of Israel.” The Gospel of John and the Future of Israel by Christopher Mark Blumhofer Graduate Program in Religion Duke University 2017.


In conclusion, I can relate with Mary Madeline in being misunderstood because she longed to wash the feet of Jesus but culture roles made her gender role unworthy in the eyes of her male peers. In the eyes of culture she was ridiculed and wrong but in the eyes of her heart and the eyes of her Father she was right and a true reflection of the church. Ultimately the wisdom to understand others culture, gender, race, and individualism comes from moral equality and as we adopt the understanding that all men are created equal we can truly break the barriers of inequality and be able to relate with one another with inclusion, transparency and agape love. “If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.  And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned,but have not love, I gain nothing.Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.” The Holy Bible, English Standard Version. ESV® Text Edition: 2016. Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers.



The Gospel of John and the Future of Israel by Christopher Mark Blumhofer Graduate Program in Religion Duke University Date: October 23, 2017.


Holy Bible: New International Version. Zondervan, 2018.


The Holy Bible, English Standard Version. ESV® Text Edition: 2016. Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers.


Published by Nikelcia Marcelin

To know me is to hate me because Me died a long time ago. If I told you that Me changed to HE you wouldnt believe me because me would be HE and that would mean HE is still alive and I in me is really HE in me and that would bring us back to Who is HE? Which woud explain ME. But then you reference the scripture " It is not I who live but Christ who lives through me. Soo inessence to know about me you would have to conclude that my Faith is Me and its all that Im about.

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